For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.
Online anger management programs are effective tools for anyone looking to control their anger and foster calmer, happier and healthier relationships.
In this episode, host Alastair Duhs shares insights on how these online anger management programs can offer flexibility and convenience while delivering scientifically-backed strategies for managing emotions.
Joined by AI hosts Jake and Sarah, the discussion delves into the benefits of learning at your own pace from the comfort of home, making anger management more accessible than ever.
Real success stories highlight how participants have transformed their lives through techniques such as mindful emotion awareness and cognitive reappraisal.
By the end of the episode, listeners will be equipped with practical strategies and encouraged to explore online resources for their anger management journey.
Key Takeaways:
- Online anger management programs provide flexibility and convenience, allowing individuals to learn at their own pace.
- Research shows that online anger management programs can be as effective as face-to-face therapy.
- Mindful emotion awareness can help you observe your feelings without letting them control you.
- Cognitive reappraisal allows individuals to change their perspective on anger-inducing situations.
- Real client success stories demonstrate the practical benefits of online anger management solutions.
- The stigma around seeking help for anger is decreasing, encouraging more people to seek support.
Links referenced in this episode:
For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.
For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.
For Alastair’s comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course.
Transcript
Picture you're juggling work, family, and life's endless demands.
Alistair Dewes:You know your anger is causing damage.
Alistair Dewes:It's pushing loved ones away and leaving you ashamed.
Alistair Dewes:But the thought of sitting in a weekly group session feels impossible.
Alistair Dewes:Who has the time?
Alistair Dewes:Who wants to share their deepest struggles with strangers?
Alistair Dewes:But what if there was a way to learn proven tools to control your anger from the comfort of your home?
Alistair Dewes:In today's podcast episode, we're breaking down the power of online anger management programs.
Alistair Dewes:I'll share why online programs might actually be more effective than face to face sessions, discuss real clients whose lives have been transformed, and uncover what science says about their success.
Alistair Dewes:If you've been waiting for the perfect moment to start managing your anger, this is it.
Alistair Dewes:By the end of this episode, you'll have everything you need to take control, create calmer relationships, and finally break free from the cycle of anger for good.
Alistair Dewes:Hello, and welcome to episode 13 of the Anger Management Podcast.
Alistair Dewes:I'm your host, Alistair Dewes, and over the last 30 years, I've taught over 15,000 men and women to control their anger, master their emotions, and create calmer, happier, and more loving relationships.
Alistair Dewes:In this podcast, I combine my 30 years of anger management experience with the power of artificial intelligence to share with you some of the most powerful tips and tools I know to help people control their anger, master their emotions, and live calmer, happier, and more peaceful lives.
Alistair Dewes:Today, I've asked my AI assistants, Jake and Sarah, to discuss the topic of online anger management programs and answer the question, do they work?
Alistair Dewes:Make sure you stick around to the end of the episode, where I'll summarize Jake and Sarah's conversation and let you know how to control your anger once and for all.
Alistair Dewes:With that said, let's get started on today's deep dive.
Jake:Ever get that feeling like your inner hulk's about to, like, totally lose it?
Sarah:Yeah.
Jake:I mean, we all get angry sometimes.
Jake:It's natural.
Sarah:Of course.
Sarah:Yeah.
Jake:But what if you could learn to manage that anger?
Sarah:Right.
Jake:And what if you could do it from home?
Sarah:Oh, interesting.
Jake:That's what we're looking at today, right?
Jake:Online anger management programs.
Jake:Do they really work?
Sarah:Lots of people are asking that.
Sarah:It's amazing how tech is changing, like, everything, even how we deal with our feelings.
Jake:Absolutely.
Jake:Okay, so imagine this.
Jake:You're struggling with anger.
Sarah:Okay.
Jake:But the thought of going to group therapy.
Jake:I don't know.
Jake:Yeah, it's kind of stressful.
Jake:Right?
Sarah:I get that.
Jake:So then you see these ads for online programs.
Jake:Learn at your own pace, you know, in your PJs if you want.
Sarah:Yeah, totally.
Sarah:Like, that's appealing for a lot of folks, right?
Jake:But.
Jake:But is it just convenient, right?
Jake:Or does it actually work?
Sarah:That's the big question.
Jake:To answer that, we gotta look at the science.
Sarah:Yeah, exactly.
Sarah:And there's this one study from the Karolinska Institute.
Jake:Okay, now break that down for me.
Jake:What kind of study?
Sarah:Oh, it's a randomized controlled trial, which is.
Sarah:Sorry.
Sarah:Like the gold standard in research.
Sarah:Really minimizes bias so you can trust the results.
Jake:So they took a bunch of people with anger issues.
Sarah:Over 200.
Sarah:Yeah.
Jake:And split them into groups randomly.
Sarah:Yeah, like flipping a coin.
Sarah:So it's totally fair.
Jake:Okay, so what did they find?
Sarah:The online program group.
Sarah:Significant reductions in anger and aggression too.
Sarah:Wow.
Sarah:Especially those who started with like super high anger levels.
Jake:Interesting.
Jake:So like, the angrier you are, the.
Sarah:More you benefit potentially.
Jake:And wait, this was a short program, right?
Sarah:Only four weeks.
Jake:Four weeks, that's all it took.
Sarah:That's what's exciting.
Sarah:It challenges the idea that you need like years of therapy.
Jake:So a crash course in anger management?
Sarah:Kind of, yeah.
Sarah:But it focused on specific techniques.
Jake:Like what?
Sarah:Mindful emotion awareness and cognitive reappraisal.
Jake:Okay, those sound a little complicated.
Sarah:I can explain.
Jake:Please.
Sarah:So mindful emotion awareness is about noticing your feelings, but without judgment.
Jake:So I'm angry, but.
Sarah:But you just observe it.
Sarah:You don't let it control you.
Jake:Interesting.
Sarah:And cognitive reappraisal, that's about challenging the thoughts that make you angry.
Jake:Like changing how you see a situation.
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:So someone cuts you off in traffic.
Jake:Ugh, I hate when that happens.
Sarah:Right.
Sarah:Your first thought might be jerk.
Jake:Definitely.
Sarah:But with cognitive reappraisal, you might think maybe they're having a rough day, you know?
Jake:So instead of getting mad, you find a different explanation and that can really help.
Sarah:The study found these two techniques together were super effective.
Jake:Wow.
Jake:So this is like real science backed stuff.
Jake:It is, but how does it work in real life?
Jake:You know, can you really get a handle on something as big as anger just through a screen?
Sarah:It's a really good question.
Sarah:And you know, it used to be that anger management was pretty much you go to a group session and that's it.
Sarah:But these days, so much of our life has moved online.
Sarah:Right?
Sarah:Even something as personal as, like working on your emotions.
Jake:It must be so much easier for people too, right?
Jake:You can go at your own pace.
Jake:You don't have to go to an office.
Jake:You don't have to deal with like a waiting room.
Sarah:That's true.
Sarah:Accessibility is huge.
Sarah:But it's more than just that.
Sarah:You know, you can rewatch the lessons, really make sure you're getting it, and go back if you need a refresher.
Sarah:It's a much more personalized way to learn.
Jake:It's almost like having a coach in your pocket, right?
Jake:Someone there to help you with anger whenever you need it.
Jake:But let's get practical.
Jake:What can someone expect when they sign up for one of these online courses?
Sarah:Most programs use a mis of video lessons, interactive exercises, and downloadable resources.
Sarah:You might find guided meditations, journaling prompts, or even worksheets to track your triggers and your progress.
Jake:So it's like to personalize learning experience.
Jake:You can do it all from home, at your own pace, no judgment.
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:And a lot of them give you the option to connect with a coach or therapist if you need more support.
Sarah:It's like having a virtual anger management buddy in your corner.
Sarah:You know, someone to cheer you on and offer guidance that there are probably some people out there who are thinking, can you really learn something this complex online?
Jake:I think the world's changing.
Jake:We're learning and connecting in new ways.
Jake:And the research is showing that online programs can be just as effective as traditional methods, if not more so.
Sarah:I agree.
Sarah:And when you consider how convenient and affordable they are, it's no surprise that they're becoming so popular.
Sarah:It's like a whole new world of possibilities for people struggling with anger.
Jake:It's about giving yourself that freedom to choose how you respond to life's challenges instead of letting anger take over.
Sarah:And that's a gift that keeps on giving, and not just for you, but for everyone around you.
Jake:Well said.
Jake:But we've talked a lot about the individual benefits.
Jake:What about the impact on relationships?
Jake:Anger can be really tough on our connections with others.
Sarah:Oh, absolutely.
Sarah:Uncontrolled anger can create so much distance and resentment, it can even lead to relationships falling apart.
Sarah:But learning to manage anger well can actually strengthen your bonds with people.
Jake:It's like this relationship superpower.
Jake:You learn to communicate better, resolve conflicts, and build deeper intimacy.
Sarah:I love that.
Sarah:And online programs can be a fantastic way for couples to learn these skills.
Sarah:Together, they create a shared language for understanding anger so they can work as a team.
Jake:Imagine that.
Jake:Turning anger from something destructive into a force for growth in a relationship.
Jake:That's powerful.
Jake:But before we wrap up this part of our deep dive, I want to talk about something that I think is really important.
Jake:The fear factor.
Jake:Admitting you need help with anger can be scary.
Jake:There's still so much stigma around it.
Sarah:There really is.
Sarah:And it Keeps so many people from getting the help they need.
Sarah:But the truth is, everyone gets angry.
Sarah:It's a normal human emotion, and there's nothing wrong with struggling with it.
Jake:It's like any other health issue.
Jake:If you broke your leg, you'd go to the doctor, right?
Jake:We shouldn't treat mental and emotional health any differently.
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:And getting help for anger shows strength.
Sarah:It means you're taking care of yourself and your relationships.
Sarah:And online programs can be a great way to get that support, especially.
Sarah:Especially if you're nervous about traditional therapy.
Jake:So if you're feeling overwhelmed by your anger, if you feel like you're at your breaking point, please know that you are not alone and there is help out there.
Jake:Don't let fear or shame stop you from taking that first step towards a calmer, happier life.
Sarah:And remember, change is possible.
Sarah:With the right tools and support, you can learn to manage your anger and build more fulfilling relationships.
Jake:Okay, but how does it work in real life?
Jake:You know?
Sarah:Well, we've got some info on a program called the Complete Anger Management System.
Jake:Okay, tell me more.
Sarah:Yeah, it's by Alistair does and anger management specialist.
Jake:What do people say about it?
Sarah:We've got some really interesting feedback from users.
Sarah:Like real people who've used it.
Jake:Give me the good stuff.
Jake:What are they saying?
Sarah:One guy, Jason, talked about how he'd get these like 4:00am thoughts.
Jake:Oh, yeah, the negative thought spiral.
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:And the program gave him tools to deal with them.
Sarah:He learned to see them as just thoughts, not facts.
Jake:So instead of freaking out, he could.
Sarah:Just observe them, detach from them.
Jake:That's powerful.
Sarah:Right?
Sarah:And another user, Lisa, she loved that she could like, personalize the learning.
Jake:In what way?
Sarah:Pause videos, take notes, rewind.
Sarah:You know, really make it her own.
Jake:That's cool.
Jake:Everyone learns differently.
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:And a lot of the feedback we have focuses on how practical it is.
Jake:So it's not just theory, it's about real life tools.
Sarah:Yeah, totally.
Sarah:It's like research meeting real life, which is super promising.
Sarah:Definitely.
Jake:So we've got the science, we've got real people saying it works.
Sarah:Right.
Jake:But let's get even more specific.
Jake:What are some of those practical tools?
Jake:Like, what does it look like to actually use this stuff in your life?
Sarah:Okay, so remember Jason, with those late night thoughts, he learned to practice mindful emotion awareness.
Jake:Right.
Sarah:So instead of getting all tangled up in those thoughts, he could just watch.
Jake:Them go by, like, oh, there's anger.
Jake:Interesting.
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:He created that distance, didn't let it control him.
Jake:That's amazing.
Jake:What about Lisa?
Jake:How did she apply what she learned?
Sarah:Well, she used cognitive reappraisal a lot, especially at work.
Sarah:Like stressful situations with her boss.
Jake:Give me an example.
Sarah:Let's say her boss criticizes her work.
Sarah:Her first instinct might be to get defensive, angry.
Jake:My boss doesn't appreciate me.
Sarah:Yeah, but with cognitive reappraisal, she can look at it differently.
Sarah:Maybe her boss is just trying to help her improve.
Jake:So instead of feeling attacked, she sees.
Sarah:It as an opportunity to grow.
Jake:That's a huge shift.
Sarah:It is.
Sarah:And over time, you can actually rewire your brain to react more calmly.
Jake:So it's not just a quick fix.
Jake:It's about addressing the root of the problem.
Sarah:Absolutely.
Sarah:It's about understanding your triggers and responding in a way that aligns with your values.
Jake:This is awesome stuff.
Jake:I mean, we started out wondering if online programs were just a fad, but it seems like there's real potential here, especially with these techniques.
Jake:Mindful emotion awareness, cognitive reappraisal.
Jake:That Cabo seems key.
Sarah:It does, based on the Karolinska study.
Sarah:And Alistair's program uses both.
Jake:So it's aligning with the latest research.
Sarah:It is, and that's what makes it so promising.
Sarah:But we gotta be real here, okay?
Jake:Yeah.
Sarah:Not all online programs are created equal.
Sarah:You have to be careful.
Jake:Right.
Jake:So how do you choose a good one?
Sarah:First, look for evidence based techniques like what we've been talking about.
Jake:Okay, so no anger management tips from random YouTube screamers.
Sarah:Probably not the best source.
Sarah:Look for programs made by qualified professionals, psychologists, therapists.
Jake:You know, makes sense.
Jake:Check their credentials, their background.
Sarah:Yeah.
Sarah:Do your research and don't be afraid to look at reviews.
Jake:Oh, good point.
Jake:What are real people saying?
Jake:Did it actually help them?
Sarah:Exactly.
Sarah:And look at the program structure.
Sarah:Does it cover lots of different anger management topics?
Jake:Okay, so gotta be comprehensive.
Sarah:Yeah.
Sarah:And think about your learning style, what works for you.
Jake:Okay, so finding the right program is key, but even then, it's not magic.
Jake:No.
Sarah:You can't just watch a few videos and expect to be cured.
Jake:Takes effort.
Sarah:It does.
Sarah:You have to be active, willing to learn and practice.
Sarah:Practice, practice.
Jake:Like learning any skill.
Jake:Guitar, a new language.
Sarah:Right.
Sarah:And remember, managing anger, it's an ongoing thing, not a one time fix.
Jake:So it's a lifestyle change.
Sarah:Yeah, exactly.
Sarah:It's about integrating these techniques into your daily life.
Jake:So for our listener out there, if they're thinking, hey, maybe I should try this, where do they start?
Sarah:First, do your research.
Sarah:Like we said.
Sarah:Evidence based techniques, qualified people, good reviews, Check, check, check.
Jake:What else?
Sarah:Be open to the process you might be surprised by what you learn about yourself and your anger.
Jake:Okay, good advice.
Jake:And you know we've talked about Alistair and his program, the Complete Anger Management System.
Sarah:Yeah, it seems to fit a lot of what we've been talking about.
Jake:Right?
Jake:Qualified guy, evidence based, good reviews.
Sarah:Yeah, worth looking into.
Sarah:But always do your own research.
Sarah:Find what feels right for you.
Jake:Okay, so if someone wants to learn more about Alistair and his program, his.
Sarah:Website is angersecrets.com Great.
Jake:We'll put that link in the show.
Sarah:Notes and you're not alone.
Sarah:There's help out there.
Jake:Awesome.
Jake:Thanks for joining us on this deep dive.
Sarah:Yeah, this has been great.
Jake:We'll see you next time for more fascinating explorations.
Sarah:Definitely stay curious and keep learning.
Alistair Dewes:Okay, thanks for tuning in to today's episode of the Anger Management Podcast.
Alistair Dewes:I hope you found this deep dive into whether online anger management programs work helpful and informative.
Alistair Dewes:Before we finish, lets summarise the main points discussed by Jake and Sarah to make sure you take away the key insights.
Alistair Dewes:Point 1 face to face versus online anger management Programs Jake and Sarah explained the key differences between face to face and online anger management programs.
Alistair Dewes:Face to face programs are usually group based, gender separated, and require attending weekly sessions over a number of weeks.
Alistair Dewes:They are led by an instructor in a group setting.
Alistair Dewes:Online anger management programs include video lessons, worksheets, and often optional group or individual coaching via zoom.
Alistair Dewes:Online programs allow you to work at your own pace, repeat lessons, and study in the comfort of your home.
Alistair Dewes:Both approaches can work, but the flexibility of online programs gives them a unique advantage for many people.
Alistair Dewes:Point 2 Jake and Sarah emphasized that online programs offer several clear benefits that make them more effective for many people.
Alistair Dewes:Flexibility.
Alistair Dewes:You can pause, rewind and revisit lessons anytime, helping reinforce learning.
Alistair Dewes:You can complete lessons at your own pace whenever it fits your schedule, whether that's in the morning, late at night, or during a break at work, and shared learning.
Alistair Dewes:Some clients complete online programs with their partners or spouses, using them to improve communication and build better relationships.
Alistair Dewes:Together, these benefits make online anger management programs accessible and adaptable to any lifestyle.
Alistair Dewes:Point 3 Real Client Success Stories Jake and Sarah discussed stories from real clients who found online anger management programs life changing.
Alistair Dewes:These include Jason, who loved the ability to revisit lessons anytime, even at 4am to work on his anger when he needed it most.
Alistair Dewes:Lisa found value in pausing videos, taking notes, and deeply reflecting on how the lessons applied to her life.
Alistair Dewes:These stories show how online anger management programs work in the real world, providing lasting results.
Alistair Dewes:Point 4 Scientific evidence supports online programs.
Alistair Dewes:Jake and Sarah discussed a significant study, the Anger Study, conducted by the Centre for Psychiatry Research in Sweden.
Alistair Dewes:The study showed that a four week online anger management program led to significantly lower levels of anger and aggression and that the program was especially effective for participants who experienced high levels of anger before starting.
Alistair Dewes:This research confirms that online anger management programs are not only convenient, but scientifically proven to be effective.
Alistair Dewes:Finally, point 5 the final takeaway is this Online anger management programs offer flexibility, convenience and proven results.
Alistair Dewes:They allow you to learn at your own pace, revisit lessons as often as needed, and integrate tools into your daily life, something traditional face to face programs may not provide.
Alistair Dewes:If you're looking for a practical, effective and accessible way to manage your anger, an online program could be the perfect solution.
Alistair Dewes:Okay, there you have it.
Alistair Dewes:I hope you found this episode helpful.
Alistair Dewes:If you did, I'd appreciate it if you took a moment to follow this podcast on your favorite podcast app and leave a quick rating and review.
Alistair Dewes:This helps other people find this show and start their journey to a calmer, happier, healthier life.
Alistair Dewes:Remember too, for free support to control your anger, including access to to a free training or a free 30 minute anger assessment, call with me, visit my website angasecrets.com or if you would like to begin your anger management journey right now, visit angersecrets.com course to enroll in my powerful online course, the Complete Anger Management System, I'd be honored to help you on your anger management journey.
Alistair Dewes:Finally, remember, you can't control other people, but you can control yourself.
Alistair Dewes:I'll see you in the next episode.
Alistair Dewes:Take care.
Jake:The Anger Management Podcast is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute the practice of counseling, psychotherapy or any other professional health service.
Jake:No therapeutic relationship is implied or created by this podcast.
Jake:If you have mental health concerns of any type, please seek out the help of a local mental health professional.
