Why Taking The Complete Anger Management System Was the Most Life-Changing Decision Syrus Has Ever Made

When Syrus, a 45-year-old father and husband living on his family’s farm, enrolled in The Complete Anger Management System, he was at breaking point.

Syrus was working two jobs — one in pest control, the other helping on the farm — and carrying the weight of deep emotional pain. He had been physically abusive toward his wife, verbally abusive to his children and increasingly isolated, angry and ashamed of the man he was becoming.

He describes it as “a very dark place.”

But when his wife told him she was afraid to sleep in their bedroom, something clicked.

That moment — simple, painful, honest — became a turning point. He knew he had to change. And after a quick online search, he found The Complete Anger Management System.

Syrus says it was the best money he’s spent in his entire marriage.

Alastair: What made you look for anger management support?

Syrus: “I had been abusive — physically to my wife and verbally to my kids. I hated it. I was ashamed of it. But I didn't know how to stop. I’d always thought being a ‘hothead’ was a badge of honor from playing semi-professional football. I thought I was entitled to growl people.”

“But when my wife told me she was scared to sleep beside me in our bed — in our own home — that was it. I knew I needed help.”

Alastair: Was it hard to reach out?

Syrus: “Yeah. Reaching out was tough. I’d looked before, searched online but didn’t follow through. I always thought I could deal with it myself.”

“But after what my wife said, I couldn’t ignore it anymore. I contacted you, and from the start, you were easy to talk to. No judgment. That made all the difference.”

Alastair: What changed for you once you started the course?

Syrus: “Everything. It switched on a light in my mind. I realised I was creating my anger. I wasn’t entitled to treat people like that — not my family, not my staff, no one".

“The idea that I create my anger — that was huge. You told me that, and it stuck.”

“I remember saying, ‘I get mad just putting my boots on in the morning!’ But the boots weren’t the problem. I was.”

Alastair: How quickly did you notice changes?

Syrus: “Within days. I started using the Tension Scale and even my wife started using it. One night she said, ‘I’m at a five.’ And I thought — wow, this is working.”

“In the past, I would’ve tried to control that situation, ask what was wrong, try to ‘fix’ her. But this time, I just walked away, gave her space and did one of your lessons. It worked. And I thought, ‘Why didn’t I know this 20 years ago?’”

Alastair: What’s the biggest change you’ve experienced?

Syrus: “I’m more vulnerable now. And I’m not ashamed to say that. I talk to people at work — even guys — about what I’m learning. One guy even said to me, ‘You seem happier.’ And I am.”

“I used to hate people. Avoid them. Now I ask how they’re doing.”

“I’ve told my son everything, too. I see some of my old anger in him, and I’m trying to pass on these tools to him early. And my kids? They actually come to me now. They don’t lie or hide things. They know I’ll listen.”

Alastair: And your relationship with your wife?

Syrus: “It’s been a game changer. We go out more, we talk. If we argue, we don’t throw things or slam doors anymore.”

“I used to blame her for everything. Now I realise that was me — my responsibility. I’ve learned to forgive myself, but also own up to what I did".

“And the tools you’ve given me — they’ve helped me rebuild trust and connection. Honestly, it’s dramatically changed our marriage.”

Alastair: What would you say to someone thinking about joining the course?

Syrus: “Don’t think. Just do it.”

“If you’re thinking about it, you’ll probably talk yourself out of it — like I did, for years. Be courageous. What have you got to lose? This course — it’s the best money I’ve spent since I got married.”

Syrus' story is just one of thousands.

He’s proof that real, lasting change is possible — even when things feel hopeless.

If you’re ready to control your anger and rebuild your relationships, take the first step today.