Do you lose your temper at small things?
Do you shout at others, swear at them or call them names when things don't go your way?
Have you ever done something you regret when in a fit of anger?
If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you likely have an anger issue.
In this article, you will learn five signs you have an anger issue. If you recognise any of these anger signs, it is time to learn how to get your anger under control.
Anger Sign 1: You get angry over small things
Do small things, like your children leaving their toys around the house, send you into an angry rage?
If so, you likely have an anger problem.
In my experience, most events people get angry over are small. Before you react to these events, ask yourself:
"On a scale of 1-10, how important is this event?".
If this event is low on this scale, such as under 5, take a deep breath and practice calming thoughts, such as "I don't need to react to this" or "This is not worth getting angry over".
On a scale of 1-10, how important is this event?
This will help you stay in control and react calmly to the situation.
If the event is high on this scale, such as above 5, it is even more important to react calmly to the situation. Tell yourself, "How I react makes a big difference to how this event turns out".
Remember that anger never helps you react more effectively, so the more important the event is, the more crucial it is to stay in control and react calmly.
Remember that anger never helps you react more effectively, so the more important the event is, the more crucial it is to stay in control and react calmly.
Anger Sign 2: You think that you are "always right"
Do you get angry if people disagree with your point of view?
If so, you likely have an issue with anger.
In my experience, the most common reason people get into arguments is that they think they are "right" about what they are arguing about.
In addition, they think they need to prove they are "right" in this situation.
In my experience, the most common reason people get into arguments is that they think they are "right" about what they are arguing about.
As a result, these arguments escalate until one or both people lose their temper. At this stage, no one wins the argument, and both people can only lose.
Instead of thinking that you're always right, remember that everyone has their own opinion and point of view. It is important to respect these opinions.
This doesn't mean that you have to agree with the other person, but it does mean that you should be open-minded and willing to listen.
Anger Sign 3: You bottle up your anger
Are you constantly pushing your anger down?
Or perhaps you feel like your anger is building up inside, just waiting for a chance to be expressed?
If so, you likely have some underlying issues contributing to your anger. These issues may include unresolved trauma, stress, relationship conflict or depression.
Bottling up your anger about any situation can be dangerous. Instead, finding ways to communicate how you are feeling is far more healthy. This may include talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeing a therapist or journaling your thoughts and feelings.
Bottling up your anger about any situation can be dangerous. Instead, finding ways to communicate how you are feeling is far more healthy.
These activities can help you understand your anger and resolve any underlying issues, without losing your temper at those that do not deserve it.
Anger Sign 4: You lash out at your loved ones
Do you often get angry with your loved ones?
For example, do you shout at your partner when they do something you don't like? Or do you get angry with your children when they do what you say?
If so, you likely have an anger issue.
Your loved ones are the people you should treat the best. If you find yourself lashing out at them, get help for your anger before it damages your relationship with them, perhaps forever.
Your loved ones are the people you should treat the best. If you find yourself lashing out at them, get help for your anger before it damages your relationship with them, perhaps forever.
Anger Sign 5: Someone has told you you have an anger issue
Has someone close to you told you that you have an anger issue?
If so, take this seriously and get help for your anger.
It takes a lot of courage for someone to say they are worried about your anger. It shows that they care about you and want to help you resolve your issues.
There is no shame in having an anger issue. Everyone experiences anger, but how you react to that anger matters most.
There is no shame in having an anger issue. Everyone experiences anger, but how you react to that anger matters most.
If someone has told you that you have an anger issue, it is time to reach out for help. A simple place to start is to enrol in my simple but powerful free training, "Breaking The Anger Cycle".
By taking the first steps to manage your anger, you can create a calmer, happier and more peaceful life.
Conclusion
OK. There you have it.
Do you have an anger issue? 5 Anger Signs.
These signs are:
Getting angry over small things, thinking you are always right, bottling up your anger, lashing out at loved ones, and someone telling you that you have an anger issue.
If any of these signs sound familiar, remember that it is never too late to learn how to control your anger and create a happier life for yourself and those around you.
If any of these signs sound familiar, remember that it is never too late to learn how to control your anger and create a happier life for yourself and those around you.
Remember: For a free training on how to control your anger, click here.
And finally, remember: You can't control other people, but you can control yourself.
