Have anger, arguments and conflict taken over your relationship?
Do you feel like you can't communicate with your partner anymore, no matter how hard you try?
Are you and your partner drifting away from each other, and you don't know how to stop it?
If so, it's time to take action, gain control of your anger and save your marriage.
In this article, you will learn three simple steps to creating a calmer, happier and more loving marriage, no matter the current state of your relationship.
Step 1: Address Your Anger Issues
The first step to transforming your relationship is to address your anger issues.
It is impossible to create a calmer, happier, and more loving marriage if you constantly fight and argue.
In previous articles, I have discussed many key aspects of anger management.
For example, to learn the 3 keys to anger management, click here. To learn six easy tips to control your anger, click here.
It is impossible to create a calmer, happier, and more loving marriage if you constantly fight and argue.
If you have not yet read these articles, I recommend you do this now.
If your anger issue is significant, the good news is that it is relatively easy to learn to control your anger.
I offer a comprehensive online anger management programme called The Complete Anger Management System. Many people have used this program to gain control of their anger and make huge changes in their lives, often in just a few weeks or less.
If you want to learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, click here.
Step 2: Learn to Communicate Better
Better communication is one of the critical foundations of a successful relationship.
Unfortunately, many couples struggle with communication. They don't listen to each other, they don't express themselves clearly, and they often end up arguing.
Of all the communication skills you can learn, being a better listener is the most important.
The key to listening better is focusing on understanding your partner instead of formulating a response. This means that when you are listening, your focus should be on what your partner is saying, not on your point of view or on trying to think of a clever response.
Of all the communication skills you can learn, being a better listener is the most important.
When you listen this way, your partner will feel heard, understood and appreciated.
In turn, your partner will be more likely to listen to you and seek to understand where you are coming from.
While listening well to your partner may sound simple, in my experience, it is far more difficult than most people think. In upcoming articles, I will discuss how to be a better listener in more detail .
While listening well to your partner may sound simple, in my experience, it is far more difficult than most people think.
Step 3: Practice the "Magic Six Hours"
The third step to save your marriage is to practice the "Magic Six Hours".
The Magic Six Hours is an idea developed by relationship guru, Dr. John Gottman. According to Dr. Gottman, couples who practice the Magic Six Hours are far more likely to have successful relationships.
So what are the Magic Six Hours?
The Magic Six Hours are a set of simple but powerful habits that can help you and your partner build a strong, loving marriage.
The Magic Six Hours are a set of simple but powerful habits that can help you and your partner build a strong, loving marriage.
These habits include:
1) Make time to connect daily. This is most easily done by putting aside 20 minutes daily to talk to each other, focussing on listening well to each other as you talk.
2) Spend two hours a week sharing quality time together. This quality time can include going for a walk, having dinner together or just cuddling and talking on the couch.
3) Set aside one hour every week to discuss the state of your relationship. This could be a weekly check-in or review of your relationship, including what has gone well this week and what you can do better as a couple.
The Magic Six Hours is a powerful concept, and I have used it with many couples to help them save their marriage.
The Magic Six Hours is a powerful concept, and I have used it with many couples to help them save their marriage.
In a later article I will discuss the Magic Six Hours in more depth and share how you can apply this concept in your relationship.
Conclusion
There you have it. How To Save Your Marriage: Three Simple Steps.
These steps are:
1) Address your anger issues
2) Learn to communicate better, and
3) Practice the Magic Six Hours.
Of course, implementing these steps takes time and effort. However, by making this effort, you will create a stronger, healthier, and happier marriage.
Remember: For a free training on how to control your anger, click here.
