November 19, 2023 in 

Episode Overview:

In Episode 55, Alastair Duhs revisits a crucial topic from Episode 6: understanding the nature of abuse and violence in relationships. This encore episode provides a comprehensive analysis of different forms of abuse and their impacts, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and addressing abusive behaviors in oneself and others.

Key Insights:

Defining Abuse and Violence: Alastair underscores that abuse and violence are the same, encompassing behaviors intended to control, intimidate, manipulate, or hurt another person.

Types of Abuse Explored:

  • Verbal Abuse: Using words to control, intimidate, or hurt, including name-calling and threats.
  • Emotional Abuse: Behaviors that manipulate or hurt another person emotionally, such as guilt-tripping or withholding affection.
  • Psychological Abuse: Manipulating or controlling another person’s thinking, including gaslighting and mind games.
  • Physical Abuse: Any behavior causing physical pain or injury.
  • Sexual Abuse: Coercing or forcing someone into sexual activity against their will.

The Impact of Abuse:

Alastair shares powerful stories and insights, highlighting that all forms of abuse, including non-physical ones, can have lasting and severe emotional impacts.

Seeking Help:

Alastair emphasizes the importance of acknowledging abusive behavior and seeking professional help to change and improve relationships.

Call to Action:

For more resources and the opportunity to book a free 30-minute anger assessment call with Alastair, visit


“While you can’t control others, you can take charge of your actions and emotions. Abuse and violence in any form are never acceptable, and recognizing this is the first step towards healthier relationships.”

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